Hey there, I’m Paula the muse behind ‘the P.S.’


What do all these women have in common?

  • Brene Brown
  • Julia Childs
  • Laura Ingalls Wilder (author of Little House on the Prairie)
  • Dr. Ruth (the sexologist)

They all hit their stride after the age of 40. Once they had cut their teeth on what they were “supposed to do” and they began to pursue what they were passionate about, they found the courage to follow the little whisper in their soul that said it’s time to get busy with what matters most!

The fact you’re here reading this tells me you’ve been feeling that little whisper too, and that it’s been getting louder! 

At the Vancouver peace summit in September of 2010 the Dalai Lama is quoted as saying, “The western women will save the world.”

Yes! And… I believe those women will be in their 40’s (and beyond).

There is nothing more powerful than a woman who has some life experience and a passion to change her corner of the world… nothing!

Now, since you haven’t clicked off this page yet and, you’re still pickin’ up what I’m putting down, that tells me you are probably this woman!

But you might be thinking…

  • Who am I to think I can start a business?
  • I don’t even know where to start!
  • If I just go after my dreams, all willy-nilly, my mother-in-law will think I’m nuts!
  • What if I fail. What if I fail. What if I fail.
  • Who will buy my stuff or want to hear what I have to say?

Let me help you with those questions…

  • Who am I to think I can start a business?
    • You are the perfect person to start your business. The world needs you to shine your talents and skills. YOU are the only one who brings this work, in your unique way into the world. One of my core beliefs is that we are the most powerful version of ourselves when we embrace our truest skills, talents, and work.
  • I don’t even know where to start!
    • You’ve already started. The first step happened when you shifted from pushing down that whisper to finding yourself reading this. By coming here your soul is already doing the happy dance thinking of how it’s going to feel to bring the best of you into the world. Whoop-Whoop!
  • If I just go after my dreams, all willy-nilly, my mother-in-law will think I’m nuts!
    • Don’t flatter yourself… she thought you were nuts long ago – just kidding (sorta). My MIL has thought I was nuts for years. Unless you are trying to get your MIL to buy your product you shouldn’t worry what she thinks. You’ve got more important work to do sistah!
  • What if I fail. What if I fail. What if I fail.
    • The agony of every entrepreneur lives in those four words. We all have those feelings. The bigger question is what is you succeed? Yes, this is scary – I was scared out of my mind when I bought a little soap company seven years ago. That fear will empower you to birth your gifts into the world… and if you’ve ever birthed anything you know it’s not pleasant, but totally worth it!
  • Who will buy my stuff or want to hear what I have to say?
    • I believe that when we come from what’s true for us and unapologetically honor our most authentic self, it’s like a dog whistle. The people who need to hear the call will, and they will show up as eager as a Labrador with a tennis ball. Sure there are some tricks I have up my sleeve to help you with that, but it starts with just being the most beautiful version of you!


So who am I to think I have all the A’s to your Q’s?

Well, it all started when I bought that little soap company when I was 40. Or maybe it started when I was about ten years old working the family fruit stand in the front yard of our house. Either way, I’ve always had a bit of an entrepreneurial spirit.

Unfortunately shortly after I bought the soap company my oldest son passed away unexpectedly. That experience launched me into starting a blog about what it takes to heal from such a wound. The blog and the healing work was wildly well received.  I learned that when we help others heal, we heal ourselves and when we heal ourselves, we heal the world.

This concept of healing the world with our gifts was affirmed to me when a blog post I wrote has been shared over 1.5 million times. I couldn’t deny how the world responds when you are aligned with your passion and purpose. I also had a little holy sh!t vulnerability and fear thrown in there when what I was doing was impacting so many people! From that experience, I began to realize the importance of doing the work we were put here to do.

It’s the reason I am so passionate about helping you figure out how to bring your gifts into the world. Who knows you might have the next viral post!

One of my mantra’s and something my coaching clients hear from me ALL. THE. TIME. is, “Imperfect Consistent Action Creates Clarity”. The more we take action towards our goals the clearer it becomes what we need to do next becomes. That, my new friend, is the secret sauce to growing your business!

Taking action and reflecting on what my skills and talents are is what brought me to coaching soulful heartfelt women (40+), like you. Working with women who are ready to launch a new online career that will replace their ‘day-job’ so that they have more freedom and flexibility to enjoy the life they deserve is exactly where my heart is.

Launching an online business is hard and it didn’t take me long to realize I was rubbing elbows with women 15-20 years younger than me. I could be their mother for heaven’s sake! A lot of what I did I learned the hard way and it wasn’t always as intuitive to me as those younger than me. Don’t get me wrong there are some brilliant women doing incredible things in the world. But the most progress I’ve made in my business came when I began to surround myself with like-minded women of a similar age. 

That is exactly why I love working with women just like you. I did all the heavy lifting so you don’t have to and I want to pass all that knowledge on!

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I am so grateful our paths have crossed and appreciate you giving me a bit of your time today. If you have any questions or just want to say ‘hi’, send me an email at paula@thepaulastephens.com


We should stay connected if…

  • Your heart knows you are ready for more joy in your life, but aren’t quite sure how to get there. (insider tip – Retreats are perfect for this reset!
  • Sipping a sweet tropical green smoothie, on the beach, after your morning yoga class – in Costa Rica – sounds too good to pass up! Yes, the retreat for 2017 is over (and was a massive success), but you can join us in 2018. 

Why I do what I do


I believe with all my heart all of us deserve and are capable
of living the life we were destined to have.

You’re in your 40’s. Maybe you got married, had kids and have balancing a career. Living the life you’re suppose to. Perhaps things happened that you didn’t plan on, and maybe you made choices you regret (so have I). That does not mean you can’t reclaim your one and only wild life!

As a matter of fact – I believe that we, as women, are best equipped to bring a unique type of magic into the world in our 40’s. Let the men buy Corevette’s, get fat and bald, and hang on to their young. We have Wise Women work to attend to… and it starts now my friend.

You have to write your own PS… and that’s where I come in. The PS is the life we live after we let go of the life we think we ‘should have’ lived and we embrace the life we are living. And I mean FULLY embrace it with our most genuine self, soul and spirit.

It’s taken me fifteen years to create this unique process of living a life you love. Well, what I mean is this program is the culmination of all the therapy inner work I’ve done and all the shit storms I’ve been through in the last fifteen years.

And the truth is…. I want to give you what I never had and don’t want you to have to wallow around in the shit of it for the next fifteen years figuring it out. Believe me I wouldn’t wish that on anyone!

I did all the heavy lifting and I want to share 100% of what I’ve learned with you so that your one wild life is filled with joy and passion and flows with ease and purpose!

Let me give you the short version of why I do this work.

Peaceful Spirit: The first break-down break-through was a result of getting divorced over fifteen years ago. Yes, it was my decision, my doing, and it left me a single mom with three boys recklessly approaching the teen years.

Being a single working Mom was a challenge and it took me way too long to learn that life was smoother when I took care of me first (you know, put you’re on mask on first). This is when I really began to deepen into my yoga and meditation as a way to strengthen my life and give me the peace I needed to rise to the occasion. Loving, gentle, kindness was better than fighting my limiting beliefs and believing at every moment the sky was falling.

Powerful Self: My second break down break through was so horrible I prayed nothing in my life would ever again be so difficult. (naturally I was wrong, see break-down three below)

Remember up above where I said my boys were ‘recklessly’ approaching their teens? I should’ve added they are also risk-takers, adrenaline-junkies and adventure-seekers. On my middle son’s fifteenth birthday I sent him to residential drug treatment 3200 miles away from home. It would take eighteen months, multiple therapist, body-guards and multiple programs until I would get my son home, we would become a family again. My son found his dharma and shines as the boy (now a young man) I always knew he could be.

During this time I learned the importance of understanding how our different ‘parts’ can help or hinder us. Becoming aware of what made me who I am and how each of those parts plays a particular role in my day to day life was life changing. I know use my Powerful Self to my advantage and operate from a place of authenticity and confidence.

Purposeful Soul: Break down number three. There is no nice way to say what happened here or to pretend that is was pretty. Shit came down hard, it was ugly and I honestly didn’t think I would survive.

On October 9th, 2010 my oldest son, Brandon, passed away unexpectedly while home on leave from the Army.

It is every bit as horrible as you think it would be and much more.

The break-down didn’t shift to a break-through for almost two years after Brandon died. Even then, it was a slow rebuild.

But here’s what I know categorically as truth.

We have one wild and beautiful life. We have a specific purpose. Nothing is promised so you better get living your dharma (purpose) now because –  nothing is promised (did I already mention that?)

I know to live from a place of purpose is the most valuable thing we can do for ourselves and for everyone around us.


What you’ll find here…

  • Resources and tools so you can start moving towards living a business that aligns with your passion and purpose
  • Tools to spark  and get clear on what the world wants (and needs) you to be
  • VIP access to special programs, retreats and workshops designed just for you

The one thing I know for sure:

The world needs people like me to serve people like you so that we can all become a more authentic version of ourselves. When I share my expertise and message, I don’t do it to feed my ego, I do it to use my candle to light others so we all shine bright. My candle doesn’t shine brighter or burn out when I share my message – rather, we all shine brighter when we share of ourselves. We all benefit when we all work towards bringing our very best self into the world. Let’s do this!

The Official Bio 

Paula is the muse behind “The PS”, her signature program that teaches transformational resilience in an unpredictable world. She is a nationally recognized speaker, yogi and author.  Paula is known for being a light on the path of transformation and has worked with survivors of mass shootings such as the Aurora Theatre Shooting, and those who’ve lost a loved one in service to their country. Her ability to thrive after many of her own personal setbacks proves that she is able to take your life to the next level. She will show you how to create a life that is Powerful, Purposeful  and Peaceful.
 Paula has her masters degree in Exercise Physiology and was previously an adjunct professor at Metro State University in the Human Performance & Sport Department. She is also a certified wellness coach and RYT Yoga Instructor. This makes her the perfect combination of mad scientist and woo-woo princess! She has presented nationally for the American College of Sports Medicine and the American Heart Association as well as many others. She is a frequent guest blogger for MindBodyGreen, Positively Positive and Tiny Buddha. You can connect with her at www.thepaulastephens.com